Perhaps you have heard of the Open Door Policy? To build team spirit and employee morale, some progressive companies institute an open door policy that encourages workers to bring concerns to management.
Well, when it comes to relationships, I believe in an open legs policy. For pretty much those same reasons.
Sex is one of the most powerful forms of communication. Screw that…THE most powerful.
It says…
- I love you…
- I want you…
- I accept you…
- I value you…
- You are desirable…
- You are important to me…
- …and loads more.
To withhold that from someone you care about is serious indeed. Yet, it is a game that women in particular (BUT yes men play it too…I know!) play all too often and too lightly.
“I’m tired.” “I have a headache.” “Can’t we just cuddle.” And it gets worse… “Is That all you ever think about?” “Sex addict.” “Pervert.”
Can you see how those things could whittle away at the trust which is the basis of good relationships?
The ‘average’ couple has sex around twice a week (we make up for a few of those once a month types).
The sex act takes on average 15 to 20 minutes from beginning to end.
So I ask you…
Can you honestly not take 15 to 20 minutes to communicate with this person that you supposedly care so much about?
You probably spend longer than that on your make-up in the morning. (And after glow of good sex is better than any cosmetics.)
I could go on and on for pages on how we have become selfish…the ‘ME’ generation. But rather than lose you in all that…here is the challenge…
For one week make yourself totally and completely available for your partner. Forget the word ‘no.’ And make certain that he (or she) knows that you are available. Hell, seduce them once or twice.
See for yourself what a difference that one thing can make in your relationship. And for the brave…report back. Let me know how it went in the comments or email.
Go on…give it a go! What do you have to lose?
Tara Cox - Literary Erotica 